When you feel all alone in your pain…

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Martin Luther’s wife once said that if she had never experienced afflictions she “would never have known the meaning of various psalms, come to appreciate certain difficulties, or known the inner workings of the soul; I would never have understood the practice of the Christian life and work.”

Perhaps that is why James reminds us to count it all joy when we encounter various trials.

But it sure isn’t fun walking through the valley feeling lost, scared and all alone.

Yet we are never alone for our Father God is always with us.

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Like a daddy holding on as we begin to ride a bicycle without training wheels, He is holding us through the ordeal no matter how long the night may last. And we will wobble on this ride, but He will keep us from crashing. Drying our tears and reminding us to be strong and courageous.

I will be with you; I will not fail you or forsake you.
Joshua 1:5

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It has been during some of the most trying, gut-wrenching times of my life — divorce, domestic violence, and another’s alcoholism or substance abuse — that I have felt His presence strong and sweet. Even now years later my heart thrills recalling how it felt – often during the wee hours — knowing He was right beside me and me kept by Him no matter what.

And Him being with me during those horrible times is a rare and precious gift which I treasure. {And so are other moments together in times less harsh.}

We know that trials come to test and build our faith, producing endurance.

But it’s hard to endure having no idea when or how a trial will end. During the darkest moments of my darkest days all I could do was offer up tears as prayers and say aloud that God is faithful and no good thing would He withhold from her who walked uprightly.

Yet I limped, made mistakes, tried again and cried some more. And He continued caring for me, holding me, soothing me.

My trials were lengthy but I kept on believing Him and filling my mind and heart with His powerful word so that I might endure.

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And let endurance have its perfect result, so that you may be perfect and complete, lacking in nothing.
James 1:4

Lacking in nothing with pain making us perfect and crushing realities making us complete.

The Jesus Way. Him walking the long road to suffering the ultimate pain to make us perfect.

And Romans 8:28 is as true as all the other verses we often quote.

All things will be used by God for good in His time and His way.

Even when the path twists and turns and there are no shortcuts we just step out in faith one day at a time holding His hand, trusting that He is with us.

And it must follow as the night the day that enduring through trials with an openness to change will create in us a heart more submitted and ready to follow Him than ever before.

Because hearts humbled love better.

His love keeps spilling all over us. And our hearts growing ten thousand times as we reach the other side of tribulation, stronger in love, deeper in forgiveness, wider in grace.

Loss and pain are inevitable. The sun will rise and keep rising. And over time the intensity of our pain will downshift into the realm of ache and later still the ache will fade in memory.

It’s never easy and it can feel like we will die, but we can do all things in Christ.

Him always with us.

Even until the end of the age…

~sheila
All our longings end in love.

If your woman’s heart needs to talk one-on-one with a woman who has experienced and survived no small amount of pain and darkness, you may want to consider C2: Comfort and Conversation.

And if your heart is breaking? Or someone you know is hurting?
Purchase your copy of Heart Cry today by clicking here.

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View from Longings End…When it’s hard to let go

MONKEY BARS

Getting over a painful experience is much like crossing monkey bars.
You have to let go at some point in order to move forward.

~ C.S. Lewis

Someone hurt you and you can’t let it go. Even years after the event.

I know what that’s like for there have been painful circumstances in my life when someone I loved ripped my heart out.

I knew what Scripture says about forgiving others yet I held on, disobeying God in order to let self reign.

Refusing to move forward thinking that by holding onto the past I could somehow change it.

And this is when bitterness begins rotting your bones.

The only way to let go is to lift up your pain to God. Ask Him to help you forgive and put the past behind you.

God promises us an abundant life even after heart break.

And when your heart is hurting bad journaling is a good way to release stored trauma and aid the healing process.

A few benefits of journaling include:

>>processing previous events

>>reducing stress

>>clarifies your thinking

>>helps you to detach

>>reveals patterns in the way you think or respond

>>can help you forgive

>>when done prayerfully, brings you closer to God.

Longings End launches Heart Cry Healing, a private Facebook journaling group for women, January 31.

Structured as a journaling workshop pointing to Christ as the source of all healing, the online group will continue at least through the end of February.

Whatever has caused your heart to hurt, whatever pain you are struggling with, you will find a warm welcome at Heart Cry Healing. Click here for further details or email me at Sheila@LongingsEnd.com  {please put HEART CRY HEALING in the memo line} for more information and to let me know you would like to be part of the group.

Don’t waste another day holding on to a hurt that holds you back from the life God has for you…

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~sheila

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Putting the past behind us … And a free online journaling workshop beginning January 31

SAILBOAT SORROW

Sometimes we can’t seem to let go of the past.

It haunts us and hurts us and holds us back from fully living the life God has created us to live.

And living a half-life, with much of our heart in darkness, causes those around us to suffer for the Light inside won’t shine as bright.

This is when we must turn to God and think His thoughts towards us. We must choose to stop focusing only inward and look up and He will create in us a new heart.

A heart that is free to live forward, both hands open, receiving all that God wants to give and then freely sharing that gift with the world.

Are you ready to take the next step?

SEAGULL SORROW ALONE

Have mercy on me, O God,
    according to your steadfast love…
    and renew a right spirit within me.
From Psalm 51

When our sin is breathing down our back and heavy upon our shoulders it can seem like we are doomed to be forever dirty.

At least that’s how we feel.

Especially if we have a relationship with Jesus and we know what scripture says about what’s right and what’s wrong.

We may be thinking we’ve blown it one too many times. Like there is no hope for us anymore. We’ve lost our joy and it feels as if God is shaking His head.

But He isn’t.

So we cry out to Him for forgiveness and mercy. Because He loves us so much He diligently forgives and forgets, showering us with cleansing.

He wipes our slate clean. He drops our sins into the bottom of a bottomless ocean where He remembers them no more.

Allowing us to put the past behind us and start living for Him for real this time. No more shortcuts. No more pleasing self above God.

For when we sin we sin foremost against our Father.

And He will in grace and tenderness towards us create in us a clean heart.

A heart that will grow soft again as it understands how deeply it is loved.

A heart that can lift its head for its shame is taken away.

As we surrender our will to Him, and keep surrendering over time, we will again feel His presence ever close — even though He was always close by — and our joy in the Lord will return.

But it may take some time.

Especially if we’ve been dallying in sin for a season.

Or believing satan’s lies for too long. 

And how our enemy works overtime to convince us we are worthless, unloved and unlovable.

And the lies stick when we are not giving our brains a good washing each day with the water of the word.

Being in God’s word, tucking it deep within our hearts, helps us avoid repeating our mistakes from the past. And helps transform our thinking about the present.

While it’s so much better to just say no to sin in the first place, we can join hearts and do life God’s way at any time. With no regrets, no fears, no shame about our past.

It is finished, Jesus said.

There will still be surrender and sacrifice and our self may balk, but at the end of a day lived for Him and through Him we will be able to exhale, close our eyes and sleep in peace knowing that we have pleased the Father.

Trusting and resting in His love, knowing He is watching over us.

And in this we will rejoice with a deep holy contentment unlike anything we have known before…

***Today’s post is adapted from Day 21 in my new book Heart Cry: 40 Reflections for a Woman’s Soul.

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Heart Cry was written to help your heart as God has helped mine to heal and continue healing. And the reflections in Heart Cry are based upon what I received spending time in the Word from the One who journals all our life stories.

And to further help you, Longings End will launch Heart Cry Healing.

This free, private Facebook group for women opens January 31.

Structured as a journal writing workshop, the online group will continue at least through the end of February.

By invitation only, this confidential community will include:

>>instructions for journaling

>>questions to get you started

>>prompts from Heart Cry, scripture, poetry, photos and song

>>encouragement to continue writing your heart out offline in the privacy of your own time

>>a place to share your comments as you are inclined and comfortable sharing

>>a haven of mutual support in a respectful environment where words of edification are exchanged in love, free from condemnation

>>prayer requests

>>and always the truth that God’s love for you is your greatest healing tonic

Whatever has caused your heart to hurt, whatever pain you are struggling with, you will find a warm welcome at Heart Cry Healing.

While I will administrate this page, offering direction, encouragement and prayer, the intention of Heart Cry Healing is to point you towards the Wonderful Counselor, our Everlasting Father, from whom true healing flows.

And journaling helps.

For many years I have used journaling with prayer as a method of healing, receiving countless benefits. There is great therapy in letting our pain spill from our hearts and via our pens onto the page.

Journaling helps us process loss and sorrow, understand our sinfulness, and can in time help reveal nuggets of gold — God’s will for our lives.

Whether you grab a notebook, a beautiful leather-bound journal or create a private online file, get ready to write. Rest assured you don’t have to be a writer to keep a journal. And no one will be looking over your shoulder grading your efforts!

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But healing, like writing, takes time and can be lonely when done alone.

So will you join me on this journey by becoming part of the community at Heart Cry Healing? 

I hope so! Please email me at Sheila@LongingsEnd.com for further information and let me know you would like an invitation to the page. Please put HEART CRY HEALING in the subject line. Thanks.

And then we can all meet together at Heart Cry Healing on January 31.

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Here’s to hearts being made new and free, intentionally set upon healing through the power and love of Christ, and the power of the pen.

God bless you and keep you, my sister friend…

~sheila

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