Staying in love in marriage takes daily devotion…


Falling in love is fun and flirty and feels overwhelming wonderful.

You’ve got stars in your eyes and you’re wishing on a shooting star that this is the one and it’s going to last forever.

In the beginning of a relationship it’s so easy to feel like you’re falling off the edge of the world with the thrill of it all.

But do the words of love that fall from lips with ease early on sometimes fall on deaf ears, hearts stumbling in a fallen world, not really understanding what true love is?

The falling in love is easy.

It’s the staying in love in marriage that can be hard because it’s where you roll up your sleeves and put your shoulder — side by side — to the wheel.

And this can prove difficult when the scales of romance have fallen from your eyes and you forget.

Staying in love in marriage means falling away from one’s self and a falling into the other.


And in a gradual, day by day process stretching out over a lifetime, two become one. When one falls, the other will be there to lift him up. When one rejoices, the other will cheer her on for winning.

Staying in love in marriage means choosing to fall in love a million times.

And falling apart from any insignificant others — people as well as projects — and pressing tenderly into each other for all the days allotted with all the good, bad, easy, hard and everything in between.


Bond growing best when the cord is three strands strong from first falling in love with the Lord.

And staying in love with Him means choosing to say yes to obedience even when feelings may be absent for a season. This means that no matter how the rain falls or the wind blows, your house, your love, your marriage built on the Rock will not wash away because you exercise your free will in the right direction helping it to stand strong.

God honoring!


Over and over as you journey onward together even when it’s challenging at times.

And there may be moments when you take the fall for the other, knowing that he or she will have your back when circumstances back you into a corner and everyone else has fallen away. When moments rage in darkness all around, and you feel like it’s all falling apart, slipping away.

In those moments you fall back on your commitment.

Fall back on your choice to stay. Your choice to love. For better and for worse.

And most significantly, your choice to love Him. And to love others through Him, and with Him and for Him.

Him who is love. Him the author that pens your love story. Him the passionate artist who paints murals of the moments of your life reaching across years.

Him who holds your heart and gives you the staying power.

And when in dustiness you fall, He will catch you. He’ll carry you on the wings of the wind until you and your marriage soar.

And love is renewed.

All over again for the one to whom you’ve pledged your heart.

For as long as you both shall live…

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26 thoughts on “Staying in love in marriage takes daily devotion…

    • Thank you so much. That really means a lot, Beth, because my heart’s desire is to help my readers understand how very God loves them, that He wants to heal their hearts and that they can have truly blessed marriages. Blessings to you. I also sent you an email. 🙂 xxoo

  1. Sheila, thank you for these encouraging words! Although I am in my early 20s and not yet married, my heart’s desire is to be married one day. These words are great wisdom! I look forward to putting them into practice one day with the guy that God gives me to be my husband. Connecting with you via #RaRaLinkup.

    • Thanks, N.Y.A. Girl…that is sooooo WISE of you and can help make your marriage strong even before it begins. Something I wasn’t too wise about in my teens and early twenties unfortunately. God bless you and your future hubby!

  2. Sheila, all I can say is AMEN! This is good and good for all married folks to know and read and read and know! Marriage is not always easy and does require the commitment to remember the words we vowed to in the ceremony. They were a commitment and obeying them is God-honoring. That is who we should want to be! The God-honorer.
    When my husband and I met, we were each 45. He had never been married and I had been divorced for 13 years after a 10 year non-Christian abusive marriage. Kenneth and I called the early feelings “influenza.” We were sure to be sick with something by the way we behaved with one another. It was wonderfully giddy but so NOT like either one of us had experienced ourselves as being. So “influenza” it must be! After almost 22 years, we are delightfully in love still but matured a lot, plus we have been through many health issues and three parents growing old and dying.
    And we have a deeply knit relationship between ourselves and with the Lord.
    Thank you for your ministry through your blog.
    Visiting from Holly’s.
    Caring through Christ, ~ linda

  3. As always, Sheila, you have brought such joy my heart. I am always enlightened every time I visit. Thank you so much for sharing this! I take your wisdom to heart. Infinite blessings to you, Love! 🙂

    #RaRaLinkup 😉

    • Your words touch my heart. And the fact that you are so young and so teachable is a delight to me. I wasn’t at your age 🙁 but being able to pass on wise words to the next generation is so redeeming. Thank You, Father. And thank you, my sweet friend. xxoo

  4. Sheila, beautiful words that describe the commitment to one another lasts a lifetime. Even when romance fades, the spark can turn ablaze again when you focus on one another and keep God in the center.

    • Yes that spark can absolutely reignite when spouses put their minds to it. And their hearts will follow!! God is good like that. Always giving us another chance to start over. Thanks for stopping by!

  5. Good stuff here, Sheila. Falling in love is easy; staying in love is harder. I agree. It definitely takes a falling over and over and over. But so worth it! Thanks for the encouragement to stick with it.

  6. Yes, yes, to your wise words today, Sheila. This lifetime commitment is a daily series of choices, of grace given, of servant-heartedness, of love in not-always-convenient action.

    For to whom much has been given, much will be required.

    And as we look at 39 years of life together, my man and I wouldn’t have it any other way …

    • For to whom much has been given, much will be required. I never thought of applying this to marriage, but you are so right. The more I ponder this the more deeply my heart understands the weight of these words. Thanks, Linda. And 39 years…what a glorious blessing! xxoo

  7. Yes, purposefully falling in love all over again, even daily will keep a marriage alive. Being courteous and giving of oneself to better the other person is not only kind but will strengthen a relationship. Thank you for sharing your awesome post with us here at “Tell Me a Story.”
    Your winter photos are lovely! Here in California we have enjoyed a mild winter with occasional rain.

    • Thanks, Hazel, for your always encouraging words! Bless your sweet heart!! And even though it’s the first day of spring…it’s snowing in the Hudson Valley right now. Enjoy Cali. Hugs and blessings are sent your way…

  8. Sheila,

    These words, this series you are writing, is such a necessary topic to keep before our eyes. It is so easy to forget to work on our marriage, to look to our loved one as they are precious and important. It is easy to let kids, work, and calendars get in the way of pursuing the one relationship, outside of our connection to Christ, which is the most significant and important.

    I have been pondering the power of reminding my husband that I love him each day as I have purposed to tell him those little things and the big things that make me smile when I see him. It has been such a blessing to see his shoulders set squarely and walk with his head held a bit higher knowing that I believe in him. Taking those steps of commitment in our marriage always force me to be grateful and thankful for the man God has given to me.

    Thanks for the reminder!

    • You’re very welcome, Dawn. And thanks for stopping by and adding your thoughts. Truly your wife-heart shines through your words…his knowing that your believe in him will help him become the man God has for him to be. Blessings to you, friend. Happy weekend!!

  9. Amen! Beautiful words of encouragement, Sheila, as you always say. Stay and trust God by faith that he is at work and will work it all out in his timing. Cheering you and your love of marriage from the #RaRalinkup on Purposeful Faith!

    • He does work it all out in His way and His time and always with the purpose of changing OUR hearts to make us more like Jesus. He is so good and marriage is such a lovely crucible in which He can further His purposes in us. Blessings to you, my friend, for a restful, peaceful Sunday. xxoo And thanks again for always being such a bright spot encourager! So glad we have connected in the online world!!

  10. This quote was so good that I had to tweet it:

    Staying in love in marriage means choosing to fall in love a million times.

    A lifetime of love is indeed made up of a million little choices, and many of them not so easy. Thank you for this great post and thank you for linking at #MotivateRMday!