So yesterday was our 40th anniversary.
We’ve been Mr. and Mrs. for 40 months filled with amazingly wonderful moments and some ups and downs as two strong willed individuals got to know each other, let go of baggage (we brought a bit!) and then surrendered further to God’s grace, learning how to best love and honor one another.
These many months have moved my Michael and me into a becoming-ever-sweeter Promised Land of Holy Matrimony. And those wedded wilderness days — when past phantoms picked at wounds we thought were healed and triggered us till we stumbled — have served to ground us more in God, increase our confidence in Christ, and provide stories to encourage you and your husband.
Key elements in any marriage are time and effort.
Without constant attention and nurturing the radiance of all that it means to be husband and wife will be lost. But the pursuit of God and His holiness brings back the glow as joyful moments shared and memories made weave you and your spouse snugly together. Every conflict resolved deepening your intimacy with each other.
The spiritual side of marriage was discussed in this part one post, but since our unions are lived out on earth here are 21 practical tips that make marriage better.
Never take the moments with your spouse for granted. Consider each other precious companions because you are rare and unique gifts from God to combat your loneliness.
Mutual respect and affection goes a long way in receiving each other’s differences.
Kiss like you mean it. Often! Whisper I love you everyday.
Kill pride. It has no place in a marriage.
Look in each other’s eyes and really listen not only to the words your spouse is sharing but to the heart behind the words.
Little things really do mean a lot. Remember to run that errand he asked you to or pick up her favorite dark chocolate bar when you’re out filling her tank with gas.
And keep filling up each other’s tank, stoking the fires hot in all the best ways.
Seek to outdo each other in going lower to serve more.
Give each other back and neck rubs.
Cook his favorite meal even if you don’t like it.
Hold hands when you go for a walk.
Laugh out loud. A lot!
Snuggle on the sofa.
Shut off the lights, light some candles and close the bedroom door on the rest of the world, the worries, the deadlines, the bills.
Be the first to say you’re sorry.
Compliment way more than criticize. Your marriage is a judgement free zone.
Spend time together, as well as alone, with the Lover of both your souls.
Thank God for your spouse every day. Thank your spouse for being yours and tell them why you’re glad.
Protect your marital bond by remaining physically faithful as well as in your will, mind and emotions.
Pray for your mate and your marriage without ceasing.
Work together at being one.
As God’s prisoner, then, I beg you to live lives worthy of your high calling. Accept life with humility and patience, making allowances for each other because you love each other. Make it your aim to be at one in the Spirit, and you will inevitably be at peace with one another.