Choosing us. Over and over. No matter what.
Just he and me, like you and him, against the world.
Us in Him, the One who lives to intercede, overcoming the world. And that includes worldliness raging rampant in us.
But about the fights and quarrels that exist among you—where do you suppose they come from? Can’t you see that they arise from conflicting passions within yourselves? You crave for something and don’t get it, you are jealous and envious of what others have got and you don’t possess it yourselves. Consequently in your exasperated frustration you struggle and fight with one another. You don’t get what you want because you don’t ask God for it. And when you do ask he doesn’t give it to you, for you ask in quite the wrong spirit—you only want to satisfy your own desires.
Even though marriages rumble and the world swirls the kingdom comes.
And the King wants to rule hearts so that never-failing love won’t be lost in marital misery.
We vow for better or for worse, in sickness and in health, in poverty and wealth.
And then wonder when worse shows up. Maybe it’s just the worst in us showing off?
We forget how we complained and cried about being single.
We fail to realize that our selfishness helped create the mess in our marriage.
Or that when we married we began a great and holy journey that is sometimes full of hard which God uses to soften our hearts.
And every step to the altar of marital sacrifice is a path to our own Calvary illuminating only the next step of obedience, not where we may or may not be in our marriage next month or next year.
This is the way walk ye in it, my daughter. Just for today. One day at a time. And soon a new path forged. Trust Me.
But a wife may resent being the one that reaches out for help as the marriage flounders and husband-faults seem to flourish.
Think of it this way: why not you?
And why not choose to see your husband as Christ sees him remembering how much God has forgiven you? No matter what it feels like when you fight, your husband is not the enemy.
For we are not fighting against flesh-and-blood enemies, but against evil rulers and authorities of the unseen world, against mighty powers in this dark world, and against evil spirits in the heavenly places.
And the marriage crucible can burn away your bad.
But now, put all these things behind you. No more evil temper or furious rage; no more malice, insults or shouted abuse! No evil thoughts or words about others, no more evil thoughts or words about God, and no more filthy conversation. Don’t tell each other lies any more, for you have finished with the old man and all he did and have begun life as the new man, who is out to learn what he ought to be, according to the plan of God.
Are you out to learn what you ought to be?
Does your heart long to be the woman God plans for you to become? To learn to live the way of Love ?
He has by his own action given us everything that is necessary for living the truly good life, in allowing us to know the one who has called us to him, through his own glorious goodness.
2 Peter 1:3
Do you know the One? Really?
Or do you just know about Him all that you have learned in church and Sunday School or what others have told you about God?
Will you seek Him now as never before? Perhaps reading the gospels as if you know nothing about God and discovering Him all over again. Or maybe for the first real time.
And falling in love with Him.
If so don’t waste another moment. Start a new relationship with Him and spend together lots of time.
Surrendered. Letting go. Exhaling. Humbling at His feet, kissing them in gratitude.
And God using the better and the worse in marriage will teach you to love and to understand how great is the Father’s love that His only Son came to die painful in your place and mine that we might be called His kids.
His kids! Precious to His heart. No longer orphans left alone but wanted.
And instead of counting to ten as you blow off more self-righteous steam count the ways He loves you.
Cost of His priceless gift helping you see your internal poverty with a renewed willingness to obey Him.
Maybe that means right now you click off your computer and open your Bible. Fall on your face and seek Him, repenting.
All these things added — like peace, joy and love.
Rescued at last…
All our longings end in love