Why we need to choose one another…



It is in the family that we see how we fare in intimacy. If we fail here it is foolish for us to claim that we do better loving the Church as a whole. Choose each other in the deepest reaches of your will. Natural affection is too fleeting in the face of trials.
~Michael Kimball from his essay, Families

Jesus was betrayed by a kiss from one of his “family.”

And our deepest wounds come from those who are closest to our hearts.

Because love is messy. Love is hard.

And love — or what is passed off as love — can hurt greatly.

Marriages end and families fracture and at the end of the day the only one smiling is the one who hates to see us joyful and blessed.

Yet Love never ends.

And we are to be learning ever so much more how to love each other better, picking ourselves up and dusting our dusty selves off each time we fail.

Saying we are sorry. And going in the opposite direction. Not apart from each other but always towards Him together.

Never giving up and never giving in to the sin the crouches at our door including the feeling that we are love failures incapable of learning and doing things differently.

But we can come to the end of our wits as we wrangle with our brooding thoughts and with each other within the boundaries of our marriages or earthly families.

Harsh words sound. Phone calls abruptly end. Doors slam. Feet stomp. Hearts grow distant. Ulcers burn. Headaches throb. Misunderstandings abound. A wife runs up large credit card bills. A husband seeks the comfort of a woman not his own. And parents turn their children away.

Tears flood everywhere and bonds tear apart.

Everyone gets hurt, even those seemingly not directly involved for the flapping wings of a butterfly here can create significant impact there. And peace on earth is only possible if it begins with me and you.

And much will be lost that can never be regained.

Never regained yet the regrets will last a lifetime.

And from the smallness of our souls love and marriages and families are destroyed big time.

We must choose and keep choosing to love one another. To gather our hearts close together. To keep practicing 1 Corinthians 13 love.


This love of which I speak is slow to lose patience—it looks for a way of being constructive. It is not possessive: it is neither anxious to impress nor does it cherish inflated ideas of its own importance.

Love has good manners and does not pursue selfish advantage. It is not touchy. It does not keep account of evil or gloat over the wickedness of other people. On the contrary, it is glad with all good men when truth prevails.

Love knows no limit to its endurance, no end to its trust, no fading of its hope; it can outlast anything. Love never fails.
1 Corinthians 13:4-8

All our longings end in love.

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