The W chromosome and its effect on mothers…{Plus tips for coping with worry}

BABY BUMP Copyright 2013 Sheila Kimball

We women may be born with double X chromosomes, but beginning the very moment we discover we are pregnant, a new chromosome activates, rarely shutting off from that day forward. And at times it can virtually debilitate us if we let it.

It’s the W chromosome and it stands for worry.

In this crazy, frenetic world where anything goes and anything can happen it doesn’t take much for worry to have its way with us.

There are super germs and diseases, accidents and random acts of violence, bullying and betrayal. And all these things can happen both inside and outside of our homes, our safe havens where we want out children to hang their hearts and never get hurt.

Families, the cornerstone of any society, are too often frayed at the edges these days and sometimes falling apart. And when you watch your world implode from divorce, or with abuse of any kind {and verbal abuse, while sometimes dismissed by the victim, is often more damaging than physical abuse}, you worry if your kids will ever be able to pick up all the pieces and grow into the lives they are meant to live.

And we long to be Supermom so we can wrap our red cape around our brood, protecting them from life.

But we can’t.

The list of potential pitfalls and dangers is long and everyday there are multiple opportunities for us mamas to worry ourselves sick. And sometimes we do and that makes it worse and perpetuates the cycle of fear in a dizzying, downward spiral.

But once a mama always a mama, and the tendency to worry never stops no matter how old they are. And when the next generation comes along we have a whole new set of little loved ones to worry over.

From trivial to immense the worries never seem to cease.

Are they happy? Are they eating well? Are they making wise life choices? Do they have enough money? Are they safe at night so far away from where they once rested their heads? Did they remember to reorder their contacts?

And the battlefield of the mind rages as our imaginations spin worst case scenarios and we wring our hands raw.

But mothers are not God.

MOM BOYS Copyright 2013 Sheila Kimball

We can’t be everywhere all at once, kissing away life’s boo boo’s and making our children’s lives happily ever after. Even if we could make it all pretty and perfect, would that really be best for them?

Will they grow into strong, healthy, productive adults if we never let them outside the playpen?

If they can’t slug it out on their own in life’s arena, how will they ever learn to stand on their own for what they believe?

Would they be able to withstand the ebb and flow of the good and the bad that makes up this wonderful messy journey called life if we rush in to save them every time? As if we even could save them!

No! So why do we waste so much time worrying when we could be praying and growing our trust in a Father who holds us all in His very capable hands?

We’re just dust and the world is scary. And our dusty little dust bunny hearts habitually hop from worry to worry, forgetting that God is on the throne and He never sleeps.

And sometimes it’s the hard things in our kids’ lives that we worry about that are the very situations that lead them to the Holy One. Their weaknesses or lack can help them realize how much they need God in their lives. So instead of worrying about a situation, let’s get on our knees and hand it off to God.

On this morning when I need to remind my mama self of all these things, I choose to place my baby boys now grown and on their own, and their beautiful loves, into the hands of Him who loves my children and yours more than we ever could.

KIDS Copyright 2013 Sheila KimballI lift them all in prayer and send love across the miles and then let my worries go and with a slow exhale, remember that worry accomplishes absolutely NOTHING!

And as Beth Moore says, “Worry always and only forms thicker flesh in us and weighs us down until we cannot walk where the Spirit would take us.”

So from me to you, dear mama, here are some tips to stop worry in it’s tracks so that we can better honor God and get on doing the next right thing in our very busy lives.

1. When worry really gets to me I sometimes need to write out a list of everything that’s making me anxious. The physical act of writing always helps me to let go.

2. Go boldly to the throne room of God and place your list at the foot of the cross in prayer.

3. Spend extra time with Dad pouring out your heart’s worries and then let His love and goodness comfort you as it reminds you how capable He is. How He has faithfully cared for you and your loved ones in the past. Over and over.

4. Say out loud if necessary that worry changes nothing and 98% of what we waste time worrying over never comes to pass. And God is very good!

5. Memorize applicable scripture verses to strengthen your heart and say those out loud too. {see below}

6. Go for a brisk walk if you can get out of the house or away from your desk. The physical activity boosts endorphins helping you to feel more positive.

7. Always, always remember that God is for you and your children. He will never let us go.

Do not be anxious about anything, but in every situation, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.
Philippians 4:6-7

Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to your life?
Luke 12:25

Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you.
1 Peter 5:7

Peace I leave with you; my peace I give you. I do not give to you as the world gives. Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid.
John 14:27

~sheila

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