Coming unglued…{or how to get a heart un-stuck}

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James Russell Lowell

James Russell Lowell

James Russell Lowell poetry

It was a volume of poetry by James Russell Lowell.

Ancient pages, brittle and yellowed. Yet words alive as ever waiting to jump off the page, into our hearts.

And we sat together in the quiet of a Sunday afternoon reading his beautiful words inspired by the love of his life, his wife Maria.

O stars, ye saw our meeting,
Two beings and one soul,

Two hearts so madly beating
To mingle and be whole!

from “Song” in The Poetical Works of James Russell Lowell

But I digress, for it is not about his poetry that I pen these words, but rather about the condition of the old book itself which got me thinking.

A garage sale find years ago, the 1885 publication featured a cover that had come unglued from the binding so the book was no longer intact.

And for some reason, as I gently turned the pages of this un-stuck book, I started to ponder about the condition of the heart.

And how it can get all stuck.

How being severely stuck in multiple ways can even lead to us coming unglued.

And there are many ways and places where we get all tangled up, missing God’s fullness in our lives.

Sometimes, we get stuck in our thinking.

Closing our minds, we become hesitant or unwilling to accept that perhaps God is showing us something new. He is shedding light on an area where He may want us to grow in a different direction from the one we have habitually traversed.

Sometimes unforgiveness gets us stuck in a miry pit of quick sand which can prove to be our downfall in the long haul.

For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. Matthew 6:14-15

I once heard the story of someone who would not forgive their spouse for lying about sneaking a cigarette. Years went by and the grudge and other issues held firm. The couple grew further apart, eventually becoming estranged. Two hearts once entwined, now broken. Where their love story winds up, only God knows…

Sometimes viewing our relational life in the review mirror keeps us stuck from moving forward on the road God has marked out, missing new destinations and traveling companions He has reserved for us.

I have counseled several women {myself included} that the “one who got away,” is no longer in your life for a very good reason. He wasn’t the one! At least not for you.

But months or even years may be wasted when we choose to pine over a man who was not for us, regardless of the reason. And in looking back and longing for “what could have been” we may miss or reject the gift of love God is providing in our present reality.{This scenario applies equally to men.}

We can also get stuck in a rut as we relate to God.

Busyness and distractions relegate God to being one more thing to check off the never ending to-do list. Time spent with Him becomes a chore. A matter of duty. Cut and dry.

Cutting His heart to the core.

And who wants to have a love affair like that when the Lover of our souls is alive and living, vibrant with Light and color and passion, waiting to whisk us off on an adventure that will last for eternity?

So when we are stuck, how do we get free?

Begin at the beginning.

And the beginning is always Him.

God waits patiently as we run circles around ourselves getting nowhere. When we finally come to Him, He greets us with a big old Papa bear hug.

And He’ll never let us go.

He’ll set our feet on solid ground.

He’ll work in our heart so we can forgive even the people who have hurt us the most. {And ask Him to forgive us our own sins.}

He’ll give us the mind of Christ to understand Him better and follow Him more closely.

And He can even help us fall in love for all the right reasons, in His right way, with the person who is right for us!

But it’s our choice. 

And life is full of choices. I contend that we have arrived where we are today by a series of our very own choices.

So, stay stuck or surrender. The choice is ours.

Surrendering, we’ll find freedom unlike anything we’ve ever known…

But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Matthew 6:33


On this day of remembrance…sending prayers and love to all the families of 9-11.

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2 thoughts on “Coming unglued…{or how to get a heart un-stuck}

    • A safe place for sure. He will never let us go or leave us alone. Our
      Great God in Heaven provides for all we need…and even for what we
      want…A good Daddy-God who can be trusted with our very lives and
      futures. LOVE HIM so much…Thanks, Jay. And btw, I LOVED your post